It’s not there fault. Yes, I certainly feel so. If traveling can exhaust adults, imagine what impact it would have on a toddler. Children between 1 – 4 years face temper tantrums quite often if things don’t come their way, the way they want. Its how they deal with difficult situations. Stress, anger, tiredness and even overstimulation can lead to temper tantrums.
More often than not, we ‘try’ to follow one of more of these tricks to deal with toddler tantrums.
AVOID – Avoid reasoning. It is a waste of your time and energy. While we at times straighten up our cap and become a ‘Wait-let-me-explain-it-to-him’ parent, it does not help at all. A child who is throwing tantrums specially when he or she is in their terrible twos, WILL NOT LISTEN. Talking sense is only going to aggravate the trouble. Hence, we suggest option 2, which is to provide them with options.
ALTERNATE – Okay let’s go to a place where you want or let’s find an ice-cream vendor might be helpful in distracting their unreasonable mind. Offering choices will not only give you a moment to catch a breath while they are thinking about their choices, it also helps with boosting their sense of control over situations. Being able to do what they want brings in a sense of accomplishment and pride.
ARRANGE – If you succeed with the above option, you might have to re-arrange your itinerary a bit to fit in their desires. Taking a short detour to a place of their choice or giving a small bribe might save you from embarrassment and a great deal of anxious moments. Of course you will have to be tactful in accommodating their needs into your plan. Just don’t say no.
ASSIST – Assisting in what they want is only going to help you. Stay close to them so they know you are listening, even if you are not, ya’ know.
AGILE – Lastly, calm down (or atleast try to) and be agile. (A fairly new concept to me that I came across is of ‘agile parenting’ or just another new term!) Parenting is no less that a project management. Plan out whats best for you and your family. If there needs to be a shift in the plan, be responsive and attentive to their needs. If plan A fails, role up your sleeves and draft out a new plan. Even if that means bringing in a slight harsh tone to make them understand, sometimes!